Relationships
Increase communication, intimacy and connection.
Relationship counseling improves relationships
Are you struggling in your relationship or marriage? Frustrated? The same old issues, hurts and arguments keep coming up? Or maybe your relationships aren’t even working out, or you are having trouble finding the right person?
Relationship counseling or couples counseling can relieve you of your stress by increasing positive communication, addressing the underlying issues, and deepening intimacy and connection. You will learn new skills, gain clarity, understanding and trust. If you are not happy in your relationship, ask your partner to go to counseling with you. If they will not go, go by yourself. Your life is too precious to put it off and worth a free consultation.
All relationship begins with Self
All relationship begins with Self. Without a good relationship with one’s self, it is difficult to have a deep, healthy relationship with another person. Sometimes I see people separately in individual counseling before we begin couples counseling. Many relationships can be improved by seeing only one person. Each individual and couple is unique, we can discover together what will work best.
Relationship counseling through various stages
I work with love partners of all orientations. All relationships have the same foundation and need for love, joy, connection, support, safety, trust, security, respect, good communication, and healthy boundaries.
I enjoy working with couples. People come to me with all kinds of issues, though underneath everything is a desire for a healthier relationship, greater love and happiness. People want a more loving relationship and a greater connection with their partner, as well as their children, in-laws and relatives. Children can be very negatively affected by parents who are not happy and not getting along. When couples resolve long standing disagreements and learn to communicate well, their children and whole family benefit greatly.
Sometimes we will conclude that it is better to separate or get a divorce. I support my clients through this often painful process. There are so many things to consider. This is not an easy decision, especially when we have children. I know, I have been through it. What is most important for ourselves and our children is that everyone is safe, healthy, happy and living a fulfilling life.
Underlying the focus and tension in many relationships are issues of sex and intimacy. Creating a safe, comfortable space where everyone can trust being fully heard and expressed is tremendously important. It takes a lot of sensitivity, ease and care on the part of the therapist. The result is greater intimacy and sexual satisfaction for the individuals and couples I see in therapy.
Relationship communication
Conscious communication skills help everyone to be heard and understood. I think this is one of the greatest gifts I give to individuals and couples during relationship counseling: teaching simple, effective, good communication skills. Good communication skills are often lacking and the cause of so many disagreements, separation and hurt. Learning to really listen and empathize with one another is the key.
Here we have the most important factor in healing relationships and the key to effective relationship counseling: helping each partner know, sense, feel and express their feelings in an emotionally safe environment. Learning to become vulnerable, sharing vulnerabilities, and empathizing with each others vulnerabilities is the single most important factor that creates and sustains healthy relationships. This is where the magic happens. When the fear and defenses come down, and hearts open, love and strong bonds return, and life becomes so much easier and more fulfilling.
Some signs you should see a relationship counselor
- When there are on-going arguments
- Talking together is not happening or is often negative
- There is little to no affection or intimacy
- Secrets are being kept from each other
- Someone is having an affair or thinking about it
- You feel abused or degraded
- You are unhappy in your relationship but fear change
- You are afraid to communicate your feelings to your partner
Are you ready?
I realize it can be scary to start therapy. Many people feel it is a failure to go to couples counseling: “We should be able to do it on our own without relationship counseling.” Or, “Couples therapy is for people on the verge of divorce.” These kinds of statements are common. Though really, if we could all do it on our own, why are so many people unhappy and experiencing stress in their relationships? To allow it to go on is very unfair to ourselves, our partners, and our children.
Whether you are in a new relationship, seriously dating, or already married, there are numerous benefits to participating in relationship counseling with your partner. And if he or she won’t go, you should go by yourself. Individually, or as a couple, there are numerous benefits to increasing your capacity for greater connection, communication, intimacy and love.
Schedule a complimentary session and no longer settle for anything less than a truly great, fulfilling relationship.
“Dear Timothy, I just wanted to write to you to thank you for all your help this past year and a half. The changes in my life have been tremendous.”
David | New York